How to Cut Unhelpful Relationship Cords: Reclaim Your Energy and Find Healing

Relationships—whether romantic, familial, or friendships—have a profound impact on our emotional and spiritual well-being. Sometimes, when a relationship ends, it can feel like a piece of us is still tied to that person. Even after the breakup or distance, you may find yourself thinking about them, feeling drained, or having emotional reactions that feel out of your control. This is where the concept of cord cutting comes into play. If you’re seeking healing through intuitive readings, shamanic work, or spell work, cutting these cords can be an essential practice for reclaiming your energy and moving forward.

What Does Cutting Cords Mean?

In the metaphysical world, cutting cords refers to the process of severing the energetic attachments or “cords” that bind us to other people, places, or experiences. These cords are not visible to the naked eye, but they are real on an energetic level. They are like invisible threads that tie us to others, often linking us emotionally or spiritually. When we are connected to someone through a relationship—whether healthy or toxic—these cords form, and facilitate the energy dynamic of that connection.

When relationships end, these energetic cords can continue to effect us, draining our vitality and keeping us stuck in past negativity from the relationship. Whether the relationship was a toxic one or simply one that didn’t serve your highest good, the cords of the one can remain long after the physical and emotional connections are severed.

Why Cutting Cords is Important After a Bad Relationship

In the aftermath of a bad relationship, especially one that has left emotional wounds or unresolved feelings, the connection between you and the other person can linger on. These energetic ties can:

• Drain Your Energy: You might feel constantly exhausted or find yourself replaying past conversations or situations in your mind, even though you consciously want to move on. You may also not recognize the source of your depletion until your are free of it.

• Keep You Stuck in Negative Patterns: Unresolved feelings or attachments to someone’s energy can prevent you from finding peace and moving forward in your life. You may find yourself repeating the same unhealthy patterns in future relationships or staying in a constant state of emotional turmoil or "oppression".

• Impact Your Emotional Health: Cords can hold onto unresolved emotions like anger, fear, sadness, or guilt, which can manifest physically, mentally, and spiritually.

Cutting cords is a process of releasing negative ties, allowing you to heal, reclaim your personal energy, and open the door to healthier relationships with yourself and others.

How to Cut Cords After a Bad Relationship

If you’re ready to release the past and move forward with clarity and peace, here are some ways you can cut cords after a difficult relationship.

1. Meditation and Visualization

One of the most powerful ways to cut energetic cords is through meditation. In a quiet space, close your eyes, take deep breaths, and center yourself. Visualize the person or relationship you’re trying to release. Imagine an energetic cord connecting you to them—this might appear as a rope, thread, or wire of some kind. See this cord vividly in your mind’s eye.

Then, visualize yourself cutting this cord with a sharp tool, such as scissors or a sword. As you do, imagine the energy of the other person’s influence lifting off of you, leaving you lighter, freer, and more grounded. You may also see the cord dissolve, returning the energy to the earth or to the universe, where it can be transmuted into something more neutral.

2. Shamanic Healing and Energy Work

Shamanic work often involves connecting to the spiritual world to heal deep wounds. A shamanic practitioner may use drumming, journeying, or specific rituals to help cut cords and clear negative attachments from your energetic field. During these ceremonies, they may call upon spirit guides or other healing entities to assist in severing the bonds that no longer serve you.

A common practice in shamanic healing is to enter a trance-like state and travel to the spirit world to retrieve lost soul parts or to ask for the removal of negative energies. If you're seeking this type of healing, working with an experienced shaman or energy healer can guide you through this powerful process.

3. Candle Magic and Spell Work

In spell work, candle magic can be a potent tool for cutting cords: 

1. Light a black candle to symbolize banishing the negative energy and a white candle to bring in healing and protection. 
2. As the candles burn, focus your intention on releasing the attachment to the person or situation that has hurt you. 
3. You can write the person’s name on a piece of paper and burn it, allowing the fire to transform the emotional energy into something positive.

Another method is a simple spell you can do for 

yourself:

1. Place two candles side by side, aligning their wicks.
2. Use a piece of string, thread, or cord to tie them together tightly around the base.
3. While holding the tied candles, light both wicks.
4. As the flames burn, visualize the cords or ties between you and the other person dissolving or being severed.
5. Allow the candles to burn down naturally, symbolizing the release of the connection.

Remember to practice safety and never leave burning candles unattended.

Alternatively, if you're skilled in spell work, you can use a cord-cutting spell, which usually involves an item such as a knife or scissors, and twine or thread to represent the energetic cord. Focus on your intention to sever the attachment with respect, compassion, and love for yourself.

4. Affirmations and Intentions

Using affirmations to cut cords can be incredibly effective when combined with other methods. Affirmations like "I release all ties to this relationship and reclaim my personal power, energy, sovereignty..." or "I forgive myself and (the other person), and I am free to move forward from this energetic entanglement" can help solidify your intention. Say these affirmations out loud or write them down every day until you feel your energetic connection to the relationship has been transformed.

5. Work with a Professional

If you feel overwhelmed or uncertain about cutting cords on your own, consider working with a spiritual practitioner. An intuitive reader, energy healer, or shamanic practitioner can help you understand where your attachments lie, and help assist in cutting cords effectively. They can also help provide deeper insights into the emotional and spiritual lessons that the relationship has brought you so you don't need to repeat such painful life lessons.

Moving Forward After Cutting Cords

Once the cords are cut, it’s essential to continue your healing journey. This could mean seeking further guidance, self-care practices, or starting new spiritual practices that help you stay grounded and centered. With the cords released, you’ll find that you’re able to move forward more freely and with a deeper sense of clarity.

Remember, cutting cords is an act of self-love. It’s about reclaiming your energy, releasing the past, and allowing yourself the space to heal and grow. Through this process, you empower yourself to move beyond old wounds and embrace a future full of possibility, love, and connection to your true self.

If you're ready to begin this journey of healing, intuitive readings, shamanic work, and spell work can be transformative tools to support you. I can recommend what may be helpful to you, and provide those services as well. Use the contact form on this site for a free consultation.  

Allow yourself the freedom to cut the cords that have entangled your life, and step into the life you deserve.