Severing these connections requires a blend of behavioral boundaries, spiritual intervention, and mental discipline. This guide will walk you through practical and metaphysical ways to cut the cord, remove harmful influence, and prevent them from living rent-free in your mind.
Step 1: Recognizing the Grip of an Enemy
Before severing ties, assess how they hold power over you:
- Do they provoke emotional reactions in you?
- Do they attempt to manipulate, control, or otherwise harm you?
- Do they drain your energy, sense of security, or happiness through conflict or psychic attacks?
- Are you caught in a painful loop of thinking about them, even when they’re not around?
What are the specifics of your situation? Be as clear as possible about how the person impinges upon your life so you can consciously sever and protect yourself from those issues.
Step 2: Behavioral Detachment – Stop Feeding the Connection
Enemies thrive on engagement. If they can provoke a reaction, they can maintain a connection and are often very persistent in doing so. Also, the power of mental engagement shouldn't be underestimated. We don't have to be physically in touch with a person to be engaged with them. The mental and emotional energy we generate about them is energetic engagement. Here are some tips to manage this:
- No Reaction Rule – Do not engage with any attempts to bait you physically emotionally or mentally. Block and withdraw however you can.
- Starve the Cord – Stop talking about them, thinking about them, or engaging in their drama on any level.
- Reverse the Narrative – Shift your internal story from being targeted to I am free.
Even in magical warfare, silence is a shield. If they don’t know how you feel or what you’re doing, they lose the ability to influence you.
Step 3: Deflecting Thoughts of an Enemy
Why It’s Crucial to Remove Them from Your Mind
Thoughts are energy. Every time you focus on them—whether in anger, fear, or frustration—you reinforce the energetic cord between you. Even if you never see them, dwelling on them feeds the tie.
When you stop thinking about them, you:
- Starve the energetic connection.
- Remove their influence over your emotions and decisions.
- Free your mind for better things, like growth and joy.
How to Deflect Thoughts of Them
1. Interrupt the Thought Loop
The moment you catch yourself thinking about them, pause and redirect:
- Clap your hands, snap your fingers, or say “Nope!” out loud to break the cycle.
- Picture a giant STOP sign appearing in your mind.
2. Replace with a Power Phrase
Affirmations rewire the subconscious. Replace intrusive thoughts with:
- They have no place in my mind.
- I am free and focused on my own life.
- My energy is my own.
Each time you affirm this, you weaken their hold on you.
3. Use Visualization to ‘Erase’ Them
- Imagine their image on a chalkboard in your mind.
- See yourself wiping it away until the board is clean and empty.
- Feel the relief of their absence.
4. Redirect to a Joyful Thought
Your brain can’t hold two conflicting emotions at once.
When their image arises, replace it with a:
- Happy memory
- Specific reason for gratitude
- Personal goal you’re excited about
- Visualization of your ideal, peaceful future
5. Engage the Physical Body
Thoughts thrive in stillness. Move to clear them out:
- Shake your hands or body as if shaking off their energy.
- Do a quick stretch, walk, or dance to shift focus.
- Hold a grounding object, like a crystal, and focus on its weight, energy, texture, appearance, etc.
6. Use a Thought-Freezing Ritual
- Write their name on a piece of paper.
- Place it in a small container with water and pinch of salt.
- Say, As this freezes, so does your hold on me.
- Put it in the freezer and leave it there. If thoughts persist, touch the freezer as a reminder that they are frozen out of your life.
7. Cut the Energy Cord in Meditation
- Sit quietly and imagine a cord between you and the person.
- Picture a golden knife or scissors cutting the cord cleanly.
- Watch the person drift away, getting gradually smaller and smaller.
- Take a deep breath and say, I release you.
Step 4: Spiritual & Magical Cord Cutting
Even after behavioral and mental detachment, energetic ties can naturally linger. Be persistent. Notable progress is not always immediate; two weeks is a reasonable amount of time to work on full release. Here are some rituals to help speed up the process:
Simple Cord Cutting Spell
- Light a black candle for protection and a white candle for purification.
- Write the person's name on a piece of paper and state aloud:
I sever all ties that bind us. You have no hold over me. - Burn the paper in a container or on foil. Visualize energetic cords snapping in two as the flame consumes it.
- Bury the ashes and candle remains of the work off your property.
Freezer Spell for Neutralization
- Write the person's name on a paper with the phrase I freeze your influence over me.
- Place it in a small container with water, a dash of black salt, a small chip of charcoal, or a dash of vinegar. Freeze it to slow and block actions against you.
Mirror Shielding Ritual
- Place a mirror facing outward near your front door or altar.
- Charge it with the intention:
All harm sent to me is reflected back to its source. - Regularly cleanse the mirror with smoke or moonlight.
Step 5: Energy Body Cleansing
Negative energy can linger even after you remove someone from your life. Regular cleansing ensures the residue won’t leave a mark on your spirit.
- Take spiritual baths with salt, hyssop, rue, or rosemary to wash away energetic residue.
- Smudge with mugwort, sage, or palo santo to clear lingering energy.
- Use Florida Water or Holy Water on your crown, hands and feet to remove spiritual traces.
Step 6: Protective Shields and Wards
To prevent further interference:
- Carry black tourmaline, obsidian, or labradorite for protection.
- Wear banishing oils (clove, black pepper, patchouli, rosemary, and lemon work well).
- Anoint doors and windows with protective sigils using cascarilla or dragon’s blood ink.
Affirm Your Freedom
Remember: an enemy only holds power if you allow them space in your energy field. The strongest magic is the refusal to engage in mundane life and spiritually. Affirmations help:
- I am protected. No harm can reach me.
- I stand in my power.
- My mind, emotions, behavior and life are my own.
If you want to forget something or someone, never hate it, or never hate him/her. Everything and everyone that you hate is engraved upon your heart; if you want to let go of something, if you want to forget, you cannot hate.” – C. JoyBell C.
