Note: The couple depicted here is just an example to illustrate the information. What you read here can apply to any configuration of coupling, romantic or not. The aggressor and victim roles can be found in any type of pairing and aren't prescribed by sex.
We often speak of 'chemistry' when people fall in love or lust. Actual chemistry is there, playing a vital part, just as energetic structures and dynamics are. Cords form from the subtle energy bodies of partners, running between them, holding them to each other in attachment In metaphysical terms, these cords are living, working, palpable, and significant parts of us and our relationships. They are deeply impactful.
Far from simply poetic ideas or symbolic metaphors, cords of attachment between people are actual conduits through which emotional, mental, physical and spiritual energies flow and manifest in 3D life. Depending upon the health of a relationship, and the state of each person’s energy body, the types of connection can be wide-ranging. Some examples are: nurturing and elevating, emotionally coercive, physically abusive, or neglectful. Also, there is an electrical nature of the energy in coupling which is sometimes symbolically referred to as 'sparks' between two people. The flow of that energy can be so intense, it does seem to spark.
Cords form naturally in intimacy, shared vulnerability, and sustained attention. They tend to develop quickly when physical touch, emotional openness, and sexual energy are present. The deeper the bond, the more intricate the network of cords can be. Some cords link at a single point, while others can create a full-spectrum exchange, connecting across chakras, from root to crown.
Since each of the seven primary chakras emanates and receives specific types of energy, when two lovers are energetically connected, these chakra-based cords act like communication channels, passing vibrations between them. Through these channels, partners may feel each other’s emotions, share intuitive impressions, or even unconsciously influence one another’s state of mind.
While there can be a positive or negative valence to any connection, attachment cords are not inherently good or bad. They are neutral structures of conduction. When a personal connection is balanced and consensual, energetic flow contains sustaining, uplifting, comforting, and transformative energies. When a relationship is not in balance, or not mutually supportive, exchanges can carry resentment, fear, control, loathing, sorrow, depletion, rage and so on. This is why we speak not just of connection and attachment, but also of binding in such matters. Energetic cords can hold someone lovingly close or somehow painfully captive.
Chakra-to-Chakra Communication—Love or Control?
Romantic or sexual connections have powerful energy flow between the seven major chakras of partners. Each chakra has its own purpose, voice, needs, and repertoire of expression in partnership. Cord attachments can be sacred channels of love, or pathways for exploitation and wounding. This becomes evident when exploring the positive and negative valences of each chakra. For example:
1. Root Chakra (Muladhara)
Positive: “You are safe with me.” The cord at the root offers grounding, stability, a shared sense of belonging, and commitment. It helps partners feel physically secure in one another’s presence and in life together.
Negative: “You can’t survive without me.” In toxic relationships, root chakra cords can manifest as control over money, shelter, or physical freedom. Fear, survival threats, or possessiveness may dominate the connection.
2. Sacral Chakra (Svadhisthana)
Positive: “I delight in who you are.” This chakra governs sensuality, emotional flow, and sexual connection. Healthy cords here create joy, intimacy, and creativity.
Negative: “You exist for my pleasure.” In distorted form, this chakra can carry lust without love, emotional manipulation, jealousy, and sexual domination or codependency.
3. Solar Plexus (Manipura)
Positive: “I honor your power and stand in mine.” A strong, loving solar plexus bond helps each person feel confident, capable, and respected. It supports healthy autonomy within connection.
Negative: “I must dominate you.” Toxic cords here can deliver shame, competition, criticism, or attempts to break the partner’s will. Control issues often stem from this energy center.
4. Heart Chakra (Anahata)
Positive: “I love you freely.” This is the heart of true connection—compassion, empathy, affection, and the willingness to be vulnerable. Heart cords create deep bonds and healing.
Negative: “You owe me your love.” When wounded, heart chakra cords may carry neediness, guilt-tripping, emotional blackmail, or martyrdom.
5. Throat Chakra (Vishuddha)
Positive: “I hear you and I share my truth.” Open throat chakra cords allow for honest communication, active listening, and the ability to speak from the soul.
Negative: “Only my voice matters.” This chakra can carry lies, gaslighting, silencing, or verbal abuse when imbalanced.
6. Third Eye Chakra (Ajna)
Positive: “I see you, deeply.” A connection here fosters intuition, soul recognition, and mutual insight. It’s the place of dreaming, visioning, and spiritual resonance.
Negative: “I know better than you.” Shadow cords here may try to override a partner’s intuition, implant doubt, or even create psychic invasion or mental domination.
7. Crown Chakra (Sahasrara)
Positive: “We are divine together.” When the crown chakras are linked, the relationship becomes a spiritual path. Partners may experience higher states of consciousness, a shared connection to the divine, and a sense of sacred purpose.
Negative: “I am your god.” In its distorted form, this can become spiritual bypassing, guru-ism, or one partner declaring their spiritual superiority as justification for harm.
Problematic Attachments
As suggested in the examples of negative energetic messages above, there are many possible noxious bonds. Below are how just a few manifest:
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1. Domination Through Mental Control and Suppression
This image illustrates a mentally sadistic cord from the man’s forehead to the woman’s, symbolizing an attempt to mentally dominate and control her thoughts. His aggression is forcefully projected, while she is diminished, bound by cords that suppress her autonomy, mind, voice, and efficacy. The cords wrapping her body suggest immobilization, emotional paralysis, and internalized oppression.
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2. Psychic Overload and Energetic Invasion
In this image, the man projects a violent surge of energy into the woman's mind, symbolizing a psychic/spiritual assault. Her mind, body and spirit are bombarded and she is consequently captive and tortured energetically.
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3. Energetic Strangulation and Emotional Drain
This image portrays multiple cords streaming aggressively to wrap around the woman's throat and heart centers as well as her entire body. He appears immensely forceful while she feels powerless, in deep pain and terrified. The cords symbolize his attempt to control her voice, sense of emotional and mental autonomy, and personal power. Her life force is fragmented through fear-based attachment.
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4. Unequal Emotional Exchange in Heart Cord Connection
Though this heart-to-heart cord appears soft and glowing, the image reveals imbalance: the man seems peaceful and fulfilled, while the woman looks emotionally overwhelmed or depleted. This illustrates a one-sided emotional dynamic where one partner may unconsciously feed on the other's vulnerability for comfort or validation. The cord is not aggressive, but it still reflects a draining connection masked as affection or empathy.
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5. Unequal Solar Plexus Power Exchange
This image symbolizes an unhealthy solar plexus connection. The cord links the areas just below the sternum, the seat of personal power, will, and identity. The man appears calm and emotionally soothed, while the woman looks emotionally burdened, suggesting a dynamic in which one partner draws energy from the other’s sense of self. This kind of solar plexus imbalance can manifest as control, emotional dependency, codependency, a slow erosion of the giver's confidence and autonomy. One partner is empowered at the cost of the other’s inner strength and identity.
Clearing, Healing, and Creating Sacred Connection
When pursuing realignment with a partner or a healthy separation, remember that energetic cords are living structures that influence our health and functioning on many levels. While some cords serve as beautiful bridges of love, others harm us. The good news is that cords can be healed, re-patterned, or released altogether.
The process begins with determining whether a cord needs to be healed or released. It is time to reflect upon if an active process is needed when:
• You feel drained, filled with a difficult emotion, or somehow harmed after interactions
• You take on their emotions or pain as your own
• You feel stuck in repetitive dynamics, even after separation or efforts to remedy issues
• You experience obsessive thoughts or emotional fixation
• You sense their energy invading your dreams, body, or thoughts
When such signs arise, it’s time for cord work. It can be as simple as a meditative visualization or as ceremonial as a full ritual. In either case, your preference and intention is everything. Many choose to have a healer do the work for them. If you would like to do it yourself, or supplement a healers work, here are some ideas for you:
1. Find time and space to be quiet, undisturbed, and alone. Ground and center yourself. Breathe deeply. Feel your body supported by the Earth.
2. Visualize the cord(s) between you and the other person—see where it attaches, how it feels, what it looks like.
3. Ask your higher self, Higher Power, or guides whether this cord is to be healed or released. Trust the answer you receive.
4. If it’s to be healed, visualize infusing it with light, love, and truth. Send these elements as gentle but vitalized heart and mental energy into the cord to enliven its living tissue. Restructure it in your mind's eye with loving, intentional clarity.
5. If it’s to be released, cut the cord gently but firmly with light, a sacred tool, your hand, your breath... Whatever comes to you.
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Visualize the other person turning and walking away toward their highest good—see them held in divine light, moving on their path in peace and purpose.
7. Bless them.
7. Call your energy back to yourself—see it return as light, joy, and strength. Breathe it in. Feel it enter you through your skin as well. Feel it invigorate you at a cellular level.
8. Seal your energy field with golden light, using a protective affirmation or prayer.
Remember
Cord work does not mean severing all love or history. Often, it's about letting go of distortions in exchanges so that what remains can be truly mutual, truly free, and healthy for both of you.
Be Proactive
If you are in a loving relationship—or building one—you can also consciously create healthy and nourishing cords and energetic dynamics. Set the intention to connect through love, mutual respect, and sovereignty. Visualize golden threads flowing between your hearts, third eyes, or crowns. Speak aloud your truths in meditation and to each other. Practice sacred touch between you. Send loving and reassuring energies through any touch. Hold space for each other’s wounds and also for each others' joy.
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